Rising Above Conflict to Build Resilient Relationships with Winifred Ling

In this deeply insightful episode of The WholeHearted Podcast, host Coen Tan sits down with Winifred Ling, a couples therapist, relationship coach, and positive psychology practitioner. Known as a secret-keeper and esteem-builder, Winifred shares her transformative journey and expertise in navigating the complexities of relationships.

Winifred believes that conflict offers an opportunity to foster deeper connection. She emphasizes the importance of developing romantic competence through curiosity and courage, providing practical tools for building meaningful relationships. She also opens up about her personal trials, including her battle with Moyamoya disease and how it reshaped her perspective on resilience and connection.

This episode is a treasure trove of wisdom for anyone seeking to deepen their relationships, navigate conflict, or simply understand themselves better.

Key Highlights:

• Wholehearted Relationships: Discover how vulnerability and emotional regulation pave the way for authentic connection.
• Conflict as Growth: Learn why conflict is not the enemy but a doorway to understanding your partner’s deeper values and dreams.
• Romantic Competence: Equip yourself with skills to approach disagreements calmly and constructively.
• Personal Resilience: Winifred’s inspiring story of overcoming Moyamoya disease and rebuilding her identity.
• The Importance of Boundaries: How learning to receive love can transform your relationships.

Timestamps:

• 00:00:00 - Introduction: Meet Winifred Ling
• 00:07:20 - The Misconceptions About Couples Therapy
• 00:14:58 - Is Conflict an Invitation to Connect?
• 00:26:55 - "You Complete Me": Debunking Romantic Myths
• 00:44:52 - Resilience and Moyamoya: Winifred’s Personal Journey
• 00:52:13 - What’s Next for Winifred?

 Final Thoughts:

Winifred reminds us that relationships are a mirror, reflecting our inner world and offering a chance for growth and healing. Whether you're navigating a tough patch or striving for deeper connection, this episode offers actionable insights and heartfelt inspiration.

Resources Mentioned:

Connect with Winifred Ling on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/iwin-couplestherapist/

Learn more about her work at Promises Health

Purchase her book, Rising Above: Stories of Meaning and Resilience, at The School of Positive Psychology. The hard copy and the e-book will be available soon on Amazon.

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